A little bit about me. I am in my mid 50s, divorced with grown children. I work as a teacher and am an empath. The perfect victim for a narc. I am trusting, forgiving, look for the best in people, the glass half full type of girl. I am educated and am very intelligent which is why I am shocked at my naivety. I should have seen this or figured it out long ago. But is because of my empathetic nature that I was sucked in and fooled. I would start to catch on and see the truth and the narc would begin his gaslighting and I would doubt my memory and/or believe I was over reacting. This has really messed me up since I still do not trust my feelings and reactions and quite often stay quiet when I should be standing up for myself. I am getting better though but the nagging doubts never leave and I am forced to say out loud, “that was not ok and you have a right to speak up”. I was never like this before. And I pray that one day that voice will disappear. And my self esteem will return to what is once was. I have been in counseling but I still struggle. I need to tell you this. You are not wrong. You are not overreacting. You have the right to stand up for yourself. An mostly YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!!- Ruth